Trust

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It takes great strength of character to enter a relationship again after someone has betrayed that trust.  Most of the time I think it just isn't possible.  Second chances are rare. 


We create many painful realities in our own lives.  We make decisions, most of us, trying to do good in this world.  But who is to say that in the long run something is good.  Some environmental practices of 50 years are now known to cause more problems.  The thing is, none of us can see into the future.  Who knows what it holds?  Who knows the absolute truth on any given day?  None of us, because absolute truth is rare.  Life shifts, like a river that floods and overflows and changes its course.  It flows on. 

The thing is, we need to allow for that shift.  Maybe it means that people are no longer part of our lives.  People we once loved and who loved us, the relationship that once was, just doesn't work.  Sometimes,a shift means the relationship changes in its nature.  Perhaps the open hearted trust isn't there any longer, but loyalty remains, and a deep, strong love that is accepting of limitations is more realistic, and in that reality, a more rewarding kind of relationship...whether it's a marriage, a partnership, a friendship, or family members.  Life's twists and turns have a way of changing us, asking more of us than we ever thought we could give.  To refuse to engage means we lose out.